Are you a single western man over the age of 25 years old and would you like to know how do you get laid and have regular sex with beautiful attractive women?
Then read this mini-guide on how to get laid and have a relationships with women that includes sex.
Confidently Dating Women™ - Fully Revised 18th Anniversary Edition
The basic requirements for getting laid as a heterosexual man
Guys, getting laid with a hot woman is easier than you think.
The basic requirements for that are quite simple:
Do you have a dick and balls?
Are you a man between the age of 18 and 80?
Do you feel sexually attracted to women?
Are you able to generally speak and have some sort of conversation with people (for example, people you already know)?
Do you know what you want and what you are looking for your encounters with women (for example, one night stands, casual sex, a relationship)?
Are there any women around nearby that are also of the age between 18 and 80?
Can you think of any place (any place) that you could have sex in private with a woman (this can even be in the back of your car, or in a deserted alley at night)?
That's it.
Actually, you can be even younger than 18 or older than 80 to have sex, but let's stay practical and legal.
It's not rocket science to get laid.
The problem you have is that you have been holding yourself back from getting laid.
Often guys have beliefs that do not support the occasion that a woman willing to sleep with them presents herself to the guy for sex.
Even in that silver-platter horny pussy delivery situation, the guy with the wrong beliefs finds a way to fuck up an otherwise easy lay.
It starts with going for what you want, without apology, creating invitations for escalation to sex.
And having a little bit of tact in your approach.
We don't use force or coercion here, as we work with mutual consent, which is a topic that sounds more complicated than it is.
We also don't take advantage of situations where the girl is completely drunk or in a coma, so to have sex with her unwillingly or unknowingly.
Not needed my friend.
"Hey, I noticed you around.
I find you very attractive.
Do you… want to go to bed with me?"
That used to be part of the lyrics of a popular song from 1998.
You can still use that today.
The point where most men screw up is that even when they talk with women, they never tell her that he is attracted to her and sexually interested in her!
You see a woman you fancy (this is called prospecting).
You go to that woman to start a short conversation because you feel attracted to her (this is called presenting).
You quickly express your interest and present her an opportunity for sexual escalation (this is called flirting).
When you're both interested, proceed to go to a location and time where you can have sex (this is called following-up).
You don't need to push or force; just keep casually inviting her from time to time to proceed to the next step.
And if she doesn't follow through after several invitations, gently end the conversation and go find another woman, as if nothing happened.
How to get laid more often with different women (more sex, fast, please!)
Gentlemen, you can turn 'getting lucky' into a consistent approach that frequently gets you to bang new hot girls for a relationship that includes sex.
The trick of the game is to strategically improve your approach on meeting, talking to and having sex with women.
Find the places where your type of woman regularly hangs out.
And then be more often in those places yourself too.
This sounds easy, and that is because it is.
All it takes is some basic research on your part, trying out some locations at different times, and keeping your eyes open.
There's a great little cheat you can use here to your advantage, which is called... data points!
For example, the Bureau of Statistics in your country or area may publish for free the demographics in different areas.
It is not uncommon that certain towns and cities draw more hot young chicks compared to other towns and cities.
You might have noticed yourself when you walk around in certain cities that on average there are more examples of hot women to see, than in other cities and towns.
But even if you're not a mad scientist like me, a man today has at his fingertips just the right tool to scan for hotties nearby.
This tool is called an online dating app.
Get on one of those apps, and then set the location radius to something low, like max 2 or 3 kilometers.
Remove the other filters (like age).
You'll quickly discover by the profiles of nearby women that are presented to you.
The common type of profile shown to you will change as you move to different nearby cities and towns.
In the country I live in, which is The Netherlands, the type of chicks I see on the apps varies a lot between cities.
The common woman in the harbour city of Rotterdam (often of non-white skin) is different from the common woman in Amsterdam (main capital of The Netherlands); a city that is loaded with white chicks trying to look hot and sexy.
And Utrecht has another type of girl (on average younger, and more socialist), and in Delft you may be lucky if you find a non-nerdy girl at all.
The differences are vast.
It's perfectly OK to discriminate women to only the ones that you desire for yourself.
When I talk about location, then I also refer to time.
Place and time are interconnected concepts.
While Einstein was talking about the general theory of relativity in Outer Space, we're talking about the Universe of Pussy.
A night club location is emptier than a dry dessert of water during the day, but at night that location transforms into The Central Point of Plenty Pussy.
Stop being stinky
Remove or mitigate undesirable personal traits that prevent you from being just a bit above average interesting guy to the women you fancy.
Now, you don't need to be looking Mr. Muscle Champion to be 'good looking' for women.
Even bald guys (like me) get laid!
But if you're walking around with a pessimistic attitude and a vibe that kills any cheerful conversation, chances are you'll find yourself unlucky with the ladies.
When you take some basic care about your appearance, your hygiene, your conversational skills, your sexiness, and your ability to lead someone to a sexual intimate situation, you'll be doing more than fine in the bedroom.
It doesn't take much to start to look and act different from a homeless drunk beggar you find on the streets that even your granny doesn't want to have sex with.
So become a more cheerful person, dress yourself in a good outfit that fits your masculine persona, brush your teeth at least twice a day and try out something that makes you more sexy.
I mean, I have guys talk to me that they want to get more women and women of better quality in their romantic and sexual life, while they make 0% effort in looking only slightly bit the part!
Guys that didn't take any conscious decision on looking somewhat representative, of dressing something cool or stylish that could at least spike some masculinity, have a bad smell or body odour and literally make farting sounds from time to time.
Imagine an ugly, unhealthy, drug overdosed, poor, stinky, disease infected, bad teethed and somewhat balding, old woman proposing to have sex with you.
How does that make you feel?
Disgusted!
Totally not safe.
Your dick will start to decay and die when it would even come near that kind of woman.
Now the advantage you have as a man is that you don't need to look like Mr. Universe America, Mr. Chad Canada, Mr. Superman Europe or Mr. Anabolic Australia to get laid.
You just have to be not 'stinky' and not boringly common like you could have been her silly brother.
Initiate everything
You'll want to start initiating interactions and conversations with women.
Present yourself as an opportunity for her to meet a great guy like you to have sex with.
Men that stick to the shaded walls like flowers, out of fear of approaching a woman in the center of the club, won't get laid.
Men that never walk up to some women that are waiting for the bus, having a drink at a cafe, or are looking at some art in the museum for that matter, won't get laid either.
Simply because he never started talking to the women he likes in the first place!
It may sound like a burden to have to initiate almost everything you want with women.
But that's perfectly fine.
Once you passed the age of 25, you might have started to notice that nothing in the world happens if you don't make some kind of effort for something happening in the first place.
Hey, even with Uber Eats Home Delivery, you'll still need to make the effort minimal effort to place that order!
The same with dating women for having a relationship that includes sex.
So initiate more.
The more you initiate, the more results you get.
You'll get more women that say no.
You'll get more women that say yes.
And you'll definitely have less women on 'maybe', which is a good thing.
Initiate to strike up a conversation.
Initiate to express your romantic interest in her.
Then initiate to propose to have a short drink.
Then initiate which location you will have that drink.
Next, initiate the topics you'll be going to talk about.
Then initiate some first body contact, like shoulder touches and hand touches.
Initiate to bounce to your or her place to have some fun.
Initiate by getting up from the seat and actually going to that location.
Initiate to open the door to her or your place.
Initiate to take shoes off.
Initiate to take the rest off.
Initiate to get a condom.
And initiate to put your dick inside her pussy.
For fcuk's sake, initiate everything you want!
Invest more time in your dating life
Dedicate time in your daily life to dating.
Keep being active, and don't become complacent.
Keep checking out new locations that will have romantic opportunities.
Keep going to new events where you might run into cute ladies.
Keep swiping and sending messages on the online dating apps.
Keep in touch with the women you have phone numbers of.
In our workshops we sometimes have men that have dedicated the last 20 years of their life to only work or business.
And then they come to me as a Dating Coach, complaining why they haven't met any lady yet.
Well, the reason is as obvious as it can be:
Those men have spend 0 time on opportunities to meet women and keep in touch with women for romantic purposes!
Does this mean that you should be going out every night, every week, every month?
Does that mean that you should be walking the streets and malls every hour, every day of the week that the shops are open?
Does it mean that you should be 24/7 on the online dating apps?
No, but what it does mean is that you do invest time in your dating life.
Just like you'll need to spend some time on ordering and getting and maybe preparing food, to be able to eat.
You'll also need to invest time into your sex life, every day, for a bit.
Improve yourself continually
This should go without saying, and the good news is that you're already doing this by reading my blog!
Keep improving yourself each and every day.
Stay curious, and be open minded.
Discover what works, keep that.
And discard things you tried that consistently don't get you the result you wanted.
You can cling to theories about how dating and women should be.
You can keep discussing with 'friends' on internet forums and social media on how you are supposed to be dating.
But that doesn't get you anywhere!
Instead, keep tweaking your approach, your convictions, your logistics, your 'game plan' so to say, in order to increase the odds of getting laid.
And test out everything in real life with real women you encounter.
For example, I keep an Excel Spreadsheet of the women I approached, dated, and slept with.
Per lady encountered and interacted with for romantic purposes, I make notes on what went well and what I would test out differently next time in a similar situation.
After the spreadsheet starts getting bigger and bigger, I review my progress from time to time to get general insights into the effectiveness of my dating strategy.
This way I can objectively improve myself to be more attractive and have more success with the kind of women I am really romantically and sexually interested in.
Don't show this Excel to women by the way!
Women want to believe in Fairy Tales of alignments of stars and planets that brought you two together.
Women don't want to know about predictable patterns for guys to meet, seduce and sleep with women for a romantic relationship that includes sex.
And you can do this too!
Because the great thing is that you have control over most of these things.
The exact specifics of what you want to improve depend on your situation.
In the book Confidently Dating Women™ you'll already find a lot of great tips and guidance on how to get laid more frequently and consistently.
And if you need some personalized help on how to improve your dating skills, find yourself positively considering hiring a Dating Coach just for that.
Yup, you read that right my friend.
Women want to get laid too.
Most women that are sexually available spend a significant portion of their day on looking beautiful and presenting themselves at times and locations where they might get attention.
That means - attention from you, as a sexually available guy; to get your dick 'accidentally' landing into her panties later that night at home!
It then 'just happened' that you 2 got laid.
Would you spend 1 to 2 hours per day on yourself too just be able to be noticed by a hot girl?
Probably not.
And that is not needed either.
Where as a man you'll enjoy the benefits of direct game - the concept of straight out actively going for what you want in a direct an linear way - you'll find that women are most on the indirect game of courtship.
As Master Seducer Ross Jeffries once said in a television interview, what women say they want and what women actually respond to are 2 different things.
The women that don't want to get laid, make a big fuss about that guys want to get laid.
To get rid of the many guys approaching them on the street, online at their socials, on dating apps etc. some of these women decide to become ugly and fat.
Meaning the good looking girls also look good because they want to get some cock going for them.
And the ones that are not going to be any bedroom-action potential for you, will give you a hard time.
Women get horny too.
And then they get an itch.
That itch needs to be scratched.
Might as well be scratched by you.
So although most women won't outright tell you they want to get laid.
You'll start to discover that the ones that do, will actually 'present' themselves indirectly to you.
If you give them the opportunity to notice them when you're around them.
For example, in the shopping mall, the grocery store, while commuting, at that bar for drinks after work, or in the park etc.
Between 18 and around 33 years old, women get horny a lot.
After that, they'll still get horny from time to time, but they make it more difficult for themselves to get laid.
But again, the ones that are available for sex, they will 'announce' themselves indirectly to the men in her environment that she's up for some action.
So the good news is that for younger women sex is less of a deal than with older women.
But that's probably no problem for you, as most men don't object to having sex with hot 22 year old girls for example.
We get this question a lot from guys that want to get laid:
"Dude, where can I meet single women that also want to get laid?"
And the answer is quite simple.
Because women are generally hypergamous creatures, most women are open for meeting a new man!
Even many of the women that seem 'taken' and already have a boyfriend or husband.
On the surface, they might not look interested.
But deep down, when you know as a man how to trigger women's lust and desires for having hot sex with you, you'll find no shortage in women that want to get laid too.
Think about it.
How many new women do you get to see every week anyway, when you burn the fcuking sofa and leave your house regularly?
Meeting single women in the grocery store.
Meeting single women while you are waiting on the bus.
Meeting single women in the bar you hang out with your friends.
Meeting single women at some live band show you visit.
Meeting single women in the gym you pump your muscles already twice a week.
Meeting single women while you are shopping for new cloths.
Meeting single women when you're on the road driving your car.
Meeting single women at parties dedicated to singles.
Meeting single women at a hobby convention or business conference.
Meeting single women through a hot female friend you already have.
Meeting single women while walking your dog in the park.
Meeting single women on the plane towards your holiday destination.
Meeting single women at dance class.
Meeting single women in a gay bar.
We have lost count of the places where we happen to meet single women.
And women that were not single, but still open to meet up with a great guy for a romantic relationship that includes sex.
You can meet hot single women almost everywhere.
Truth to be told, there are places where it is more likely that you'll encounter hot single women.
In the book Confidently Dating Women™ we explore various locations and ways that you can discover where the best spots and places are to meet single attractive women.
Some of our coaching clients ask why they don't see any hot women in their life.
Often these guys don't meet single women simply because they stay at home playing video games.
They never go out of the house!
And when they do go out, they go to guy's only places.
For example for a hobby like fishing that mainly draws men but very few women (if at all).
No no no no no!
Stop complaining.
And get to work.
Figure out what places and times in your area are frequently visited by women you fancy.
Next, adjust your life such that you naturally go by those places at those times anyway.
Simply adjusting which grocery story you get your groceries at, might be a difference in night and day on randomly stumbling upon new women.
Also adjusting the time at which you generally get your groceries, might be the difference in running into families with kids versus prima hour for single ladies wanting to stash their fridge.
How to talk to women for a relationship that includes sex
Next up is how to talk to women for a relationship that includes sex.
What most guys do wrong when they talk to women is:
They either don't start talking to the women they fancy (they avoid talking, or say nothing).
They talk very boring and rational to the women they fancy (no emotion, dull topics, nerdy).
They talk too eager to the women they fancy (trying to convince her, showing off, bragging, needy).
They avoid expressing any verbal sexual interest in the women they fancy (while they are talking to that woman).
They talk about sex… but too much (again, too needy).
They talk more than they let the woman talk.
These approaches to chatting with the ladies may get you into conversations with them, but won't get you in the sack with her.
Then there are men that try to learn the best pickup lines and magic routines, as if sleeping with a woman involves some kind of showing off and convincing.
Women can spot phoney tricks from miles away.
The problem is you're not expressing authentic male-to-female interest in her.
Instead, you're putting up a mask or a shield, hiding your true self, by rehearsing some canned pickup lines to her or trying to impress her with your tricks and knowledge.
Impressing others doesn't work.
Trying to impress someone else implies that you're not worthy and OK enough just by the way you are yourself.
It makes her the prize, and not you.
So authentic communicating is a key aspect to talking to women.
It means being able to strike up a conversation with a stranger.
And being honest to yourself; to remain relaxed, confident, laid-back, self-assured, smiling, confident and without need.
Talk to the lady in the way that it is clear that you are attracted to her, and that you may want her, but that you don't need her.
The way you talk to women is more important than what you actually say.
Another thing many men try to do is to actively steer the conversation towards their goal of having sex with her.
Of course, in any conversation, if you don't have a plan for yourself, then the conversation will not lead to that goal out of itself.
But at the same time, if you're talking to someone like you really need to sell that person on your idea, you're in the convincing business again!
And the convincing business sucks.
Have you ever tried to instead assume that you may have sex soon with a woman, and want to find out it that one particular women you talk to might be fit for the job?
No pressure, but confident, relaxed, step by step, slow escalation from innocent talking to suggestive topics to dirty talk.
"But what if I say something that pisses her off?"
You might ask us.
"Then she definitely won't have sex with me any more! My chances are gone!"
Well, there is a dirty little secret on how to deal with disagreement.
Part of the secret is that it is perfectly OK to not always be in agreement with someone.
The basics of flirting means that you want to have a little bit of tension going on between you two.
On one hand you suggest some sexy interest (want to get closer to each other), and on the other hand you playfully tease (create a bit of space between each other).
In the book Confidently Dating Women™ I dedicate a whole chapter or 2 on how to talk to women and what to say when you approach her, and have a date with her.
A lot of men look for free sex with local women nearby.
They want to get laid with beautiful women without having to spend money.
Maybe you are a guy that is looking for casual dating too.
Well, then I have good news for you if you are looking for meeting women for a relationship that includes sex, and meeting them for very little money or no money at all.
You may have discovered though that you (wrongly) believe it is somehow mandatory to pay women before you'll have any chance of having a relationship with her that includes sex.
How can it be that in a world of online dating apps - that only might work for you if you pay for a subscription or for boosts - and sugar daddy girls and Instagram Influencers, you can still meet real single women for free?
Why is it that some men need to pay for (access to) sex, buy women flowers and gifts, get her an expensive dinner, or hand over their credit card to Miss Princess, while some men seem to get laid a lot with hot women even when they look broke and have no money in their bank account?
Are you being victim to being some kind of pay pig for women, having to drive her around town all the time, for a hug bug no sex in return?
While the lady you've been treating as a princess is happily fcuking Bob for free on the side?
Time to reverse the tables.
Hell, if you want, you can even have her pay you before there will be any bedroom actions going on between you two.
Pimp-a-licious sweet.
You can get laid with women for free, if you know how women work sexually and what masculine behaviors they are intensely attracted to.
Women seem to have three approaches to classify the men they meet:
"I want this guy soo bad, I don't know why but I need to have sex with this dude right now!!"
"I like this man but he has to do some effort (time, money, resources invested) before I hand over my precious punani to him."
"I will never ever have sex with this guy, but I'll give him some non-sexual affection and attention so I can get a lot of stuff for free, paid by him, or provided access by him, while I will have sex with his hotter male friend for free."
Which of those 3 categories do you want to be in?
Exactly, the first!
The dirty little secret to getting laid for free is to have the beliefs and display the behaviors that a woman associated with the first option, where she will have you put in the box of Fuckboys.
Most guys however fall for the trap of accepting being trapped in the second or third category, where they are stuck in a box that only will waste their time and money.
When you have nothing sexy going for you, and thus no women that are eager to sleep with you as you are - without her counting cash flow coming to her - then you'll be condemned to category 2 or 3.
The second category women usually reserve for men that have long-term monogamy potential (sometimes called the 'serious boyfriend').
If the woman is 33 years or over, the chances she'll prefer meeting men for category 2 over category 1 increases.
It is possible to get yourself into ideal category #1 for those middle aged and older women, but it will be more difficult then go dating younger women aged between 18 and 32 years old.
The third category is definitely your danger zone.
You'll never want to be in that sexless category.
Well at least not when you're reading this website and wanting to apply the Confidently Dating Women™ method for meeting women for a relationship that includes sex.
Will you never get laid in category 3?
Well, generally no, but sometimes, when you provide a lot of free value to the girl, and you are about to withdraw that free flow of money and goodies and opportunities to her, she might have a brief quickie with you.
But that's only to pump up your hopes enough that you'll keep pouring in more money to the stuff she wants.
To have sex for (more or less) free, to save a lot of money on dating and sleeping with women, you want to be in category #1.
And you need to be in that category from the start of meeting her.
If you find yourself in category 2 or 3, stop, and ask yourself, "Why didn't I pull out already?"
Then pull the plug and let her be a great woman, but not a woman for you.
Whenever you meet and date women, have the mindset that you are screening for women that you find attractive and who classify you as a number #1 type of man:
The type of man she will desperately want to have sex with!
Your mindset, your behaviors and your appearance are things that you have a lot of control over.
That's why a man like you can get laid, and why a man like you can have sex for free with women who are genuinely interested in you too.
If you need help to get into category #1, go buy and read the Confidently Dating Women™ book.
Although it is easy to get into the having-sex-for-free bucket with women, to really grasp the approach on how to pull that off, read the secrets that I explain too you in that book.
